i've only been on one date with the kid. he can't really be "future-husband," can he?
well, and i don't want him to be, either.
so the set-up that my 70-year-old roommate was so eager about just isn't gonna go anywhere. i've officially decided that. i don't want to be mean, but quite honestly, the kid kinda drives me nuts.
we went out about 2 months ago. it was fine. it was fun. (well, aside from the whole falling-asleep-on-a-first-date thing, but yeah. see previous blog for a refresher on this. :P) we talked a few times that next week. i called one day to ask him out, but only got his voicemail, so i just left him a message and he didn't get back to me until i had already made other plans, so we didn't go out. since then, he got super busy at work, i took 2 cpa tests, he went on a couple business trips, i went home to visit for a few days ...
we played a bit of phone tag. talked a few times. it was all getting kind of annoying. he didn't ever ask me out. i didn't have to turn him down.
well, he called me 2½ weeks ago on a sunday evening just to say hi. i was on the phone with cute guy at the time, so of course i didn't answer. he left a message. i didn't really want to talk to him, so i didn't call him back right away. and then i completely spaced calling him back all week (it was a busy week: i had my last cpa test, my sister and her husband came back from cambodia, and i was going out of town). so that friday, i was at the airport waiting for my flight and looking through my phone -- i saw again that he had called. well, i was on my way out of town for a vacation and didn't want to talk to him. so i didn't call.
then it was sunday evening again -- it had been a whole week since he called -- so he called again to say hi. i was playing board games with my parents, so i didn't answer. he left another message. i didn't call him back -- i was spending time with family.
he called again that wednesday this week and left another message "just to see how things are going." i had a friend over for dinner, so i didn't answer. but i was starting to feel bad.
i mean, seriously, how many times does a guy call before he just waits for a girl to return his call? i wasn't intentionally trying to blow him off. i would actually really like to tell him that i'm not interested in going out with him anymore. but i kinda feel like if he isn't going to ask me out, then who am i to assume that he even wants to go out with me. maybe he just likes calling me and leaving messages ... ??
anyway, i did finally call him back on thursday evening. we talked for about 20 minutes. and when i say we "talked," i really mean, "i had a conversation and he just listened." that's kinda how it is to have conversations with some people. hey! -- it's okay. some people just aren't conversationalists ... and i don't have to date those people. so yeah.
he didn't ask me out when we were talking -- and i even opened up the floor for him to do so if he wanted to -- i asked what he was doing this weekend, i told him what i was doing, and even mentioned that i didn't really have plans for a couple of the evenings. but he didn't jump on it.
the only question now is if i need to make an issue of it and say something to him before he tries calling and not asking me out again ... :S
4 comments:
how do you know he isn't just trying to get to know you better through talking? plus, you can't really just leave a message for someone to ask them out on the message... would you? well, maybe you would, but i would think it would be better to just leave the message and then ask out when they call back... if they call back. :)
maybe he IS just trying to get to know me better through talking. but i would hope that means that he does some of the talking ... seriously, when talking to him, i find myself just almost *pulling* information/commentary/thoughts out of him. it's exhausting ...
and yeah, i can understand him not leaving a message asking me out (though i would, and have, actually). but then when we are talking, he never does ask me out.
i'm making an issue of nothing, huh?
some people are really just *not* phone talkers. it's like they need to see your face to really understand what you're trying to tell them.
That's okay. but i would say give him a chance, talk to him in person. if it's still just as awkward then whatever...you tried.
granted. maybe not a phone talker. okay. so why doesn't he ask me out so that he can talk to my face?
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